not always wrong being selfish
must a couple break up if either party have problems with the other spending too much time with his or her friends, or to the point that often he or she must hang out with their friend(s) as well?
i'm not saying there must be a perfect logic to everything people do, but often we see couples breaking up for as simple a reason as a teeny disagreement in the heat of a quarrel. and often, once you said it out, there can be no taking it back. so are we being selfish towards ourselves, selfish towards our partners, or selfish towards our friends?
from all we read or listen to, love, they say, is selfish. only question is, who is the losing party. if you put your friends ahead of your partner, but cannot let go of that love afterwards, you are just being selfish to yourself. does it really work this way? is it really better? sometimes things are just not as straight-forward as we think it to be...
on the other hand, for a person who finds relieve from the break-up, it is pretty obvious who he is being selfish to.
what about the situation where most couples who just neglects their friends, well, once in a while perhaps. does this mean they don't cherish their friendships as much? i strongly and positively object this assumption. (haha). for a start, they don't completely neglect their friends. we still find time to go out with them whenever there is a chance. yes we, i'm putting myself in this debate. couples don't have to spend every freakin' hour together, each still leads their own life. okay, i'm not saying we are totally free from guilt of neglecting our friends but ya, other than having special reasons sometimes, we do look forward to catching up with our buddies.
there are many things in relationships (be it with your love or your friends) that can be hard to compromise sometimes. even following your heart might not guarantee anything. the ultimate solution is to ask yourself,
i'm not saying there must be a perfect logic to everything people do, but often we see couples breaking up for as simple a reason as a teeny disagreement in the heat of a quarrel. and often, once you said it out, there can be no taking it back. so are we being selfish towards ourselves, selfish towards our partners, or selfish towards our friends?
from all we read or listen to, love, they say, is selfish. only question is, who is the losing party. if you put your friends ahead of your partner, but cannot let go of that love afterwards, you are just being selfish to yourself. does it really work this way? is it really better? sometimes things are just not as straight-forward as we think it to be...
on the other hand, for a person who finds relieve from the break-up, it is pretty obvious who he is being selfish to.
what about the situation where most couples who just neglects their friends, well, once in a while perhaps. does this mean they don't cherish their friendships as much? i strongly and positively object this assumption. (haha). for a start, they don't completely neglect their friends. we still find time to go out with them whenever there is a chance. yes we, i'm putting myself in this debate. couples don't have to spend every freakin' hour together, each still leads their own life. okay, i'm not saying we are totally free from guilt of neglecting our friends but ya, other than having special reasons sometimes, we do look forward to catching up with our buddies.
there are many things in relationships (be it with your love or your friends) that can be hard to compromise sometimes. even following your heart might not guarantee anything. the ultimate solution is to ask yourself,
... what is it that you want.
posted by KeLLy @ 21:51
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